Wednesday, 23 January 2019

How To Start Believing In Yourself

At times, it can be hard for you to believe in yourself, especially if you have developed negative feelings, such as feeling like you have nothing to offer or are unworthy of things, only until you realize that the opposite can be true. If you are having trouble seeing and believing all of the amazing things you possess and all of the beautiful things you could offer to make this world a better place, there are simple things that you can do to start believing in yourself!

You can look at all of the things you have already accomplished and set goals for the future, you can make new friends, have good discussions, get fresh perspective of things, look for opportunities to use your skills, you can take good care of yourself to build your confidence back. Here are just 6 things you can do to move in the right direction to believing in yourself.

1) Make a list of your past achievements! - Writing out a list of your achievements will help you begin to believe in yourself. Sit down and make a list of all of the things that you feel you have done really well at during some point in your life. Include even the most minor activities, like putting together furniture from ikea or organizing a party for a friend or family member. After you’ve written a short list, try to find patterns in the activities. Identify what you have done well over and over again to understand your skills. As you identify the skills that helped you achieve those things, begin to list those skills in a second column. You can also make a list of stuff that you admire about yourself in a third column. For example, if you notice that you’ve been successful at caring for animals, this could mean that you are naturally a compassionate person so you can try to find more activities that will help you to use this skill, such as volunteering at a local animal shelter.

2) Talk to people who love you! - If you're having trouble seeing all of the wonderful things about yourself, you can always talk to someone who loves you. Sometimes we have difficulty seeing the best things about ourselves, but the people who love us will never struggle to see those things. Say something like, “Lately I have felt like I am not good at anything, but I am trying to move past that and identify my skills. What do you think I am good at?” Your close friends and family will answer and tell you the things that they think you are good at which maybe things you already knew but perhaps overlooked.

3) Find a cause that you believe in! - It can be hard to believe in yourself if you are always trying to please others. Make sure that you look for causes and projects that appeal to you and that you actually believe in. The passion that you feel for these causes and projects will help you to work harder and see how much you can achieve.

4) Set realistic goals! - Setting realistic goals will help you to believe in yourself and your ability to achieve things. Make sure that you develop goals that are in line with your skills and that are attainable. For example, if you have decided that you want to work towards a long-term goal of becoming a veterinary assistant because of your animal handling skills, start by setting a small attainable goal of applying to a veterinary assistant program. Once you achieve that goal, you can move on to another small, attainable goal that helps to get you closer to your long-term goal. Be prepared to go outside of your comfort zone now and then. Even though you are setting realistic goals, you might need to do things that you don’t normally do to achieve your goals. After you set a goal, work hard until you achieve it. Don’t abandon a goal because it becomes too difficult. If a goal seems too difficult, try breaking it into a series of smaller goals and focus on one at a time. Baby steps is key and as long as you are doing something each day to help move you forward, you will accomplish your goals.

5) Reflect at the end of each day! - Self-reflection is an important part of self-improvement. It helps you to look at what you are doing well and what you still need to work on. Take a few moments at the end of each day to reflect on your experiences. If you have a day where you don’t achieve as much as you hoped you would try to learn what you can from the situation to avoid repeating any mistakes you might have made. For example, if you can’t seem to get yourself up in the morning to go on a walk as planned, you may have learned that you have trouble getting motivated in the morning. Try setting multiple alarms, and maybe even place one of them a few feet away from your bed, so you have to get up and turn it off. Or, you could try to find a different time to take a walk, instead of forcing yourself to do it in the morning.

6) Be persistent! - Sometimes we feel like giving up because failure is a possibility, but it’s perfectly natural to struggle with something the first time you do it. Instead of blaming yourself for doing something wrong, give yourself permission to experiment without worrying about the consequences. Some of the most successful innovators have found that improvisation requires a sort of “playful” mindset as opposed to one that is fixated on a single goal.

I hope this post helps you start to believe in yourself more and would love to know your thoughts in the comments section below.

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